Entries by Erika E.

It Happened to Me… I Got Ghosted

Falling off the earth, pulling the disappearing act, ghosting… it all means the same thing: just up and leaving a relationship without having to courtesy to tell your significant other that you’re, well, up and leaving.  In the days before texting and Tinder, there was actual talking and the art of the real, in-person conversation.  Even […]

He Fudged His Height. Was it Okay?

I had a date about a year ago with a guy I met on OkCupid. He seemed handsome, witty, and intelligent—certainly enough to get my attention—so we decided to meet for brunch the following Sunday. (I prefer drinks on a first date, and that’s what I advise my clients, but I couldn’t resist the bacon… […]

Erika E… Signing Off

Over the last four and a half years of writing for Gather the Jews, a job which I’ve thoroughly enjoyed, I’ve addressed a lot of topics—some serious, some silly, and some in between. In the 100+ articles from “Erika E.” we’ve talked about when it’s time to take your profile down, what to wear on […]

Top Five Reasons to be Thankful in Dating

As Thanksgiving is upon us, it’s time to put aside our pride and simply be thankful for the blessings we have in life: our health, our family… and JSwipe? In this day and age, we can do just about anything with technology: read a book without flipping a single page, have groceries delivered with the […]

JDate’s Not the Only Site on the Playground

Most of us have heard of Match.com. And Tinder. And OkCupid. But have you heard of HowAboutWe and Chemistry.com? What about Delightful, the Steve Harvey-promoted online dating site, and People Media? Or OurTime.com for the 50+ crowd? And then, of course, there’s Plenty of Fish. Believe it or not, the same company—InterActiveCorp (IAC)—owns all of […]

Eerie, Sexy, or Funny… Your Costume Says A Lot About You

People often ask me what to wear on a first date. I give a few pieces of advice on this topic: – Wear clothes to match the venue. – Make sure everything is neatly ironed and tucked in, as appropriate. – Shoe choice matters. While the first date outfit is obviously important, there are other […]

Love Yourself Before You Can Love Someone Else

We hear this expression all the time: Love yourself before you can love someone else. What does that even mean? What it means to me—and how I explain it to my clients—is that the only person who can make you truly happy is, you guessed it, you. We all know those people who are down […]

Ask Erika: How do I make a spark!?

We called, and you answered! Thank you so much for the overwhelming number of questions in response to “Ask Erika” a few weeks ago. Continue sending your questions my way! I’ll be addressing all of them in due time, but I wanted to start today with a question from a reader that I get a […]

Can I Ask Someone Out on Rosh Hashanah?

As the seasonal drink of choice shifts from an iced coffee to a pumpkin spice latte (with real pumpkin!!), and with the High Holidays upon us, it’s time to deal with a question that might arise: Can I ask someone out on Rosh Hashanah?  What I mean is this: What if you see a good-looking […]

The Intro Says it All

When you go to a bookstore (do people still go to bookstores??), would you rather buy the book with the line on the back cover, “This book is about a woman’s adventure and coming of age,” or the one with the line, “Read a rare tale about a woman’s 14-month trek through the Amazon to […]