My Stanford Prison Experiment While Waiting in Line for ‘Star Wars’

The scene reminded me of the 1971 experiment on authority which suggested why Nazis conformed, only instead of cells with prisoners there was an IMAX movie theater full of Star Wars nerds.

My numbered wristband revealed when I could enter the IMAX theater at the National Air and Space Museum the night Star Wars: The Force Awakens opened. I would be the 362nd nerd in the theater because I arrived only 90 minutes before the showing instead of 630 minutes like the luckiest nerd, Number 1.

Screw this. I cut through the pack, weaving between ropes, to stand with my friend Griffin who had arrived 150 minutes early.

“Do not cut in line or stand out of order!” a uniformed man who was standing outside the roped area screamed to the moviegoers. “You will enter the theater single-file! We will check your wristband! If you are out of order we will remove you! There will be no saving seats!”

Nerds began chattering, asking other nerds “What number are you?” to ensure they lined properly. When nerds asked about my number, I said, “I’m just standing with my friend,” and pocketed my right hand.

“Good luck, I hope you make it,” nerds said patting me on the back.

The line began moving and solemn nerds shuffled towards the leader, the man checking wristbands, in front of the theater. I quickly considered what to say to that man justifying my disorder in as few words as possible. My confidence grew, remembering that I was young and strong and I teach classes on how to write in plain language for my profession.

“This is wrong,” Griffin said. “Let me handle this.”

I looked at my livid friend, Number 158, who always supports social justice and is never afraid to speak up. “Ok. Thanks for sticking up for me,” I said.

Terror overtook me when just eight nerds stood between us and Wristband Checker. “150,” he yelled and I searched for a hidden tunnel under my feet, a ram to sacrifice, or anything else to help me escape.

The line shortened even more and I could see three nerds standing outside the roped area next to a burly security guard. They were caught. Before I could turn back, Wristband Checker yelled “158.”

Griffin, animated and high-pitched, started in rapid fire. “My friend goes in with me he had cancer twice and couldn’t stand in line with me that long his hip bone was removed due to childhood cancer!”

Wristband Checker, who didn’t look in our eyes and saw us only as numbers, grabbed my arm and said, “362. . . to the side! You can’t enter yet. Wait until you are called.”

“But he wouldn’t have been able to stand with me for two and a half hours!” Griffin fought back.

“I can’t let him in.”

“I’m sorry, I tried!” Number 158 said to me, walking away.

I drooped and watched as hundreds of other nerds entered, taking the best seats. The security guard looked down at the two-inch lift in the sole of my left shoe, which I need to walk after cancer left that leg shorter. He said in a voice softer than I had expected, “You should have taken the disabled entrance. There’s a special entrance upstairs for you people. I wish you took the disabled entrance.”

A young woman joined us segregated nerds. “That’s my fiancé!” she said, looking towards a young man walking away and miming something like, “I’ll come for you later, I promise.”

She was Number 410 and he was Number 279. “You are going to split up an engaged couple?” she said almost in tears.

“You were out of line,” Wristband Checker said, his focus already having moved on to Number 280’s wristband.

“Nothing he can do. He has to follow orders,” the guard told her.

“Get those people back!” Wristband Checker instructed the guard, pointing to us. “They’re too close to the ropes.”

We retreated from the ropes and from the security guard who had a gun, or maybe a light saber? I suddenly forgot where and who I was.

Twice the guard asked me, “Who are you again?”

It was easy for him to forget amid the chaos we marching nerds caused. “I’m Number 362,” I said.

“I told you you should’ve taken the disabled entrance,” he said again.

After Number 361 entered, the guard stopped Wristband Checker. “I got Number 362 here!” he said, sweeping me into the dark theater as if it were a hidden cellar.

That man saw my humanity and I won’t forget him.

I followed the other nerds down the hallway and up stairs towards empty seats when I spotted Griffin in the middle of the fourth row, a great location that allowed the 85-foot-wide screen to occupy her entire visual field. “Hey!” I said.

“Hey you made it, thank God! I even saved a seat for you.”

I didn’t ask how she did it. I sat beside Griffin and eyed my right wrist. For years hospital wristbands branded me a “cancer patient,” and now I was branded a “lesser nerd.” Rage began bubbling.

Then I beat the authoritarian Wristband Checker by forgetting he exists when the screen illuminated my life for two and a half hours with bastard children and cute robots. I felt for the end of the wristband inside the loop and pinched it with my thumb and the knuckle of my forefinger. In one yank I ripped it apart and thought, as I did after finishing treatment for both my first and second cancers, never again . . . never again.

This originally published on The Huffington Post. Benjamin Rubenstein is the author of the Cancer-Slaying Super Man books.

2015: A Jewish Year in Review

Another year is almost over! 2015 brought many great things and to usher out the year in style, Gather the Jews has put together a little year in review of our own. As a greater Jewish community, it is nice to remind ourselves of where we have been and where we are going…

In this year alone, local D.C. area Jewish organizations and individuals posted over 1,400 events to the Gather the Jews calendar. That means an average of 100 events per month were happening all throughout the city, attracting and inviting different Jews from all walks of the DC/NOVA/MD Jewish life. We hope that this year you were able to find your fit in the large community that exists and if not, that’s what next year is for!

So how do we look at such an amazing year? Some of our organizational partners sent us just a few highlights from their year – these are the moments that you created through your enthusiasm and participation! Check it out…

 

2015 Highlights

February 24: First Happy Hour planned by Gather’s new associate Jackie!

Happy Hour at 18th Street Lounge in Dupont

Happy Hour at 18th Street Lounge in Dupont

 

 

March 13: Gather the Jews launches the inaugural Open Doors Fellowship

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Cohort I Open Door Fellows

 

 

April 22: Adas Israel’s Young Professional Kavanah Experience samples a taste of Jewish yoga, meditation, learning and kirtan.

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May 7: ACCESS DC 15th Annual Young Diplomat’s Reception “Celebrating Culinary Diplomacy: The Art of Breaking Bread and Building Bridges

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May 14:  YWLN Cake Pops and Entrepreneurship Event at Baked by Yael

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Young Women’s Leadership Network making Cake Pops

 

 

May 22nd: Gather the Jews held the fifth annual Jewish Guy/Girl of the Year Competition. We crowned Jewish Guy of the Year Marc and Jewish Girl of the Year Sasha!

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From left to right: Gather Associate Jackie, Jewish Guy of the Year Marc, Jewish Girl of the Year Sasha, Gather Director Rachel Gildiner, Former Gather Director Rachel Giattino

 

May 31: Young Leadership of The Jewish Federation of Greater Washington’s first-ever Blue & White BBQ

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June 11: 6th in the City Black Tie Trivia Night 2015

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Host Committee for Black Tie Trivia Night

 

 

June 13: Nice Jewish Boys DC gathered before heading over to march in the Capital Pride Parade.

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Can you spot former Jewish Impacter of the Week Ben?

 

 

October 15: It was Young Leadership’s 5th Annual Impact DC!

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November 5: Let The Sun’s Light Rise Remembering the life and legacy of Yitzhak Rabin with Scholar in Residence Member of Knesset Ayelet Nahmias-Verbin

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Member of Knesset Ayelet Nahmias-Verbin

 

 

December 6: Moishe House roommates lighting Hanukkah candles.

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Moise House DC members Tiffany, Benji and Adam

 

 

December 6: Young Women’s Leadership Network Conference

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December 9: Moishe House DC member Tiffany celebrates Hanukkah at the White House.

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December 10: Austrailian Mixer with Moishe House DC

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December 19: YP@Adas seeing Zoo Lights

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New Year’s Resolution for 2016 – Reining In My Unicorn

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The other night, my boyfriend and I discussed if people our age back in the 90’s were happier than they are today. We agreed that they were. Why? They were not chasing their “unicorns” as we do today. This unicorn, as described in Wait but Why’s Why Generation Y Yuppies are Unhappy,” is an image, goal, or expectation to which we aspire based on what we see set forth by others on social media outlets. The five-second glance we take at social media while sitting at our desk, just for a quick escape from work, can sometimes add an emotional roller-coaster to our day that we did not anticipate. “Awesome [picture, article, status update here] + [friend’s name here] posted!” or “Why did [frenemy’s name here] not [verb] to [event, group, status, etc]?”

I will not deny that much of what is about to come in this article is me agreeing with Wait but Why’s thesis. However, I promise to provide ways to make 2016 different than 2015 through small tweaks. First, we have to accept that as a generation we:

  • Have access to smart phones
  • Have a constant need (and outlet) to share every life event
  • Make sure that everybody knows “we were there”
  • Ensure that our five seconds of “I’M SO HAPPY and I got to share it with EVERYONE” moments, will cause everyone to ignore our subsequent 12 hours of “Why does no one text me? Why did I pick this career? Why can I not get a date? Am I doing life right?”

So what do we do with this unicorn that, with every false image we see of our friends, makes us believe that we are behind on our life paths? We rein it in. We look at what gives it its powers and we start to put boundaries in place so we can still have our lofty goals and actually enjoy them. By setting boundaries around social media, we can attempt limit allowing our unicorns to give us any more crazy ideas about how our lives should compare to others by setting boundaries around social media.

Social media can sometimes be the stimulator of all intense emotions we feel in one day. Sick of flying like a pendulum from one end to the other? Unless you choose to delete your social media accounts outright, try some of these easy methods of handling your unicorn:

  • Create a friends list. Did you know that most social media outlets allow you to create different friend lists and then target your postings? Choose the audience for your social media post and ensure that only who you want to see it can do so.
  • Don’t unfriend, just unfollow. Every time you look at social media, do you see status updates from people who irritate you, the selfie parade (it is always the same suspects), etc? Just go to their profile and check the unfollow button and your newsfeed is [enter name here] free.

Take care of yourself:

  • Reflect. Think back to the New Year’s resolutions you made for yourself for the Jewish New Year. We just celebrated it three months ago; it is not too late to get back on track.
  • Look at where your friendships are. Do they make you happy? Are there ways to make them more meaningful? Check out Yes and Yes’s 15 Ways to Catch Up With Friends That Aren’t Grabbing Coffee or a Cocktail.
  • Listen to your body. Sometimes passing on an event or an evening with friends is just what you need to recharge.
  • Call it out! Don’t mansplain or womansplain. Keep the gossip to good gossip. Positively talking about people and events will make you feel happier at the end of the day.
  • Breath. Take a break from your computer, smartphone, car, and gadgets and take a stroll in the park.

Lastly, come up with a tangible goal that both you and your unicorn can agree on for 2016. It could be going back to school, looking for that new job, or maybe just learning a new hobby. Push your unicorn to be more like what it was pre-Facebook and not what social media has made it today.

Monthly Mussar: The Pros and Cons of Staying Cool as a Cucumber

I scrubbed my dishes angrily.

This month, I focused on equanimity – staying even-tempered in the face of adversity. As Rabbi M. M. Leffin wrote in his book, Cheshbon ha’Nefesh, on Mussar, “As long as a man’s mind is settled, his intellectual spirit quietly stands guard, spreading its light upon his mind as if it were a torch atop the edifice of his body.” We can learn from this idea that when we let our feelings overtake us, it diminishes our ability to reach our full potential in the world. Going into this month, I wanted to cultivate more equanimity – to focus on maintaining my composure in difficult situations.

With this in mind, I found myself at the sink, scrubbing, taking out my feelings on plates and silverware. As I’d written last month, I had been juggling a lot. Still wanting to be a good daughter, I called my mother as I prepared to do dishes since this opportunity for multi-tasking was the only time I had. She told me she would call me a half hour later, which was just enough time for me to finish my dishes. An hour later she called, and I was angry. I’d been swamped all day, and I still had more to do. And I had waited for her to call when she said she would, but she was late. I was ready to just tell her I couldn’t talk – that I was too busy, and she’d missed the window when I was available. But I held my angry words for a minute and answered the phone. Before I could put my foot down, my mother told me about her awful day while holding back tears – a near car accident, a bad doctor’s appointment, and a bad talk with my father, who was out of town. I let her tell me about it all, and I did my best to offer comfort.

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While I did miss out on taking care of the things I was planning to, had I blown off my mother, I would have missed a rare opportunity for connection. And I realized then how dangerous it can be to our relationships when we let our ego or our anger overwhelm the feelings we have for each other.

But the answer isn’t so easy: there are two lessons of caution from this story as well.

First, in being supportive of my mother, I never expressed that I was angry at her that night, and I didn’t feel heard from the myriad of times over the preceding weeks when I’d expressed just how stressed and overwhelmed I was feeling. A better option would have been to be able to tell her how I felt in a calm way. Since I didn’t, I’m left with the danger that after suppressing those feelings this time, the next time I am swamped, the same thing might happen again, and my feelings might come out in a fury. Because while it might seem obvious to me that there is a problem, if I don’t make it clear to her, she will continue as if nothing is wrong.

But the other lesson from this story is that you can’t pour from an empty cup. It’s a lot harder to keep your cool when you’re not able to or have chosen not to adequately care for yourself. Sometimes, there’s nothing you can do: you have too many commitments and you just need to soldier on through them. But other times we make the choice to take on too much – to push ourselves too hard and to not care for ourselves the way we should – and if we don’t have enough for ourselves we certainly don’t have enough to maintain our relationships with others. So in the short term, the equanimity challenge is to stay calm in a tense moment, but in the longer term, the challenge is to have less tense moments in your life.

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Were you ever in a difficult where you showed equanimity? Or wished you showed equanimity? Share below in the comments.

This next month, I am focusing on honor. I plan to think about how we show honor to others, and how our egos might get in the way of that. But I also plan to think about how we show honor to ourselves.

You’ve Disturbed My Pretty Universe

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I love when worlds, or in this case universes, collide. Steve Harvey’s Miss Universe mix-up this week strangely parallels another timely mix-up – from this week’s Torah reading. As the book of Genesis comes to a close, Joseph brings his two sons to their grandfather Jacob (renamed Israel) to be blessed. Joseph’s assumption, the assumption throughout the book of Genesis, is that the firstborn deserves the “greater” blessing by nature of his being born first. And so Joseph brings his oldest son Manasseh to Jacob’s right side, the “greater” side, and his younger son Ephraim to Jacob’s left. Yet what unfolds is surprising to both Joseph and the reader:

But Israel reached out his right hand and put it on Ephraim’s head, though he was the younger, and crossing his arms, he put his left hand on Manasseh’s head, even though Manasseh was the firstborn. (Genesis 48:13)

Instead of blessing the oldest with his right hand, signifying the greater blessing, Jacob instead crosses his arms so that his right hand is upon the youngest. What is Jacob trying to teach Joseph, and us, through this choice?

I believe it is a very subversive message. A major theme of Genesis is that of chosenness and rejection, a theme that begins with Cain killing Abel because Cain’s offering was not accepted. In Steinbeck’s East of Eden, one character concludes from this story: “I think everyone in the world to a large or small extent has felt rejection. And with rejection comes anger, and with anger some kind of crime in revenge for the rejection, and with the crime guilt – and there is the story of mankind. I think that if rejection could be amputated, the human would not be what he is” (p. 329).

To choose is also to reject. Even when it’s not as explicit as taking off someone’s crown to put it on someone else, it’s often experienced that way. As Jerry Seinfeld says about being second-place: “Congratulations, you almost won. Of all the losers, you came in first of that group. You’re the number one loser.” Being rejected is painful, especially when you expected to be chosen.

So how can we mitigate this pain? One way is to try to “amputate” rejection by getting rid of the very act of choosing. I’m not sure how realistic this option is, and I think a world without any choosing is also a world without ambition, accomplishment and recognition.

Jacob offers an alternative approach. Instead of refusing to choose, he challenges the connection between chosenness and greatness. By switching his hands, he transforms this selection process into a confusing and seemingly arbitrary one. Who is being chosen – the one on Jacob’s right side, or the one under Jacob’s right hand? And having just met both Manasseh and Ephraim, what criteria is Jacob using for his choice? This lack of clarity brings to focus the subjective nature of many choices.

As it says later on in the Torah, “God did not set love upon you, nor choose you, because you were more in number than any people – for you were the fewest of all peoples” (Deuteronomy 7:7). Choice is less about the chosen than the chooser. Appreciating this undermines the inaccurate and often unfair conclusions made about people who are and are not chosen.

Where will the Jews be on Christmas this year?

images-6One of the more noteworthy Christmas Carols begins, “Oh the weather outside is frightful, but the fire is so delightful, and since we’ve no place to go, Let It Snow! Let It Snow! Let It Snow!”

Well after we just finished a few 60- 70 degree December days I’m pretty much going to make the educated guess that us Jewish-Washingtonians will not be experiencing a white Christmas as we head to Gallery Place for the traditional Chinese food and movie experience. My magical iPhone weather app is telling me that Thursday, December 24, has a high of 73 and Friday, December 25, has a high of 63.

And for those of you in our Jewish community who will not be celebrating Christmas, or having a snow day in our pajamas binge watching Netflix episodes of the new Aziz Ansari show, we do have some other options…

On Christmas Eve our community has two large social events. The Matzo Ball returns to DC and moved from Eden to Midtown this year. They are advertising the event to 21-39 year olds and tickets are going for $30 + $1.74 processing fee. Doors open at 9 PM and close at 2 AM. There is no Facebook event online so GTJ can’t say how many people will be heading there this year.Falafel Frenzy Invite_GTJ Newsletter_2015

Across town the Falafel Frenzy returns to The Howard Theatre, and like the Matzo Ball, the doors open at 9PM. Unlike the Matzo Ball though, 100% of the money raised at the Falafel Frenzy will be going to charity – in fighting hunger in DC. Since being founded as a grassroots initiative five years ago by many of DC’s young Jewish professionals the event has generated $80,000 towards feeding the hungry in our community. Tickets are $36 in advance or $40 at the door. Drink specials will be available until midnight.

The folks at Duke’s Grocery have also put together a pre-party at 6:30 for the Falafel Frenzy with a special food and drink menu that includes Falafel with the works. For every special food and drink order made, images-4Duke’s will make a donation to advance the fundraising goals for the Falafel Frenzy.

On Christmas Day the DCJCC continues their tradition to provide service opportunities to our community. Projects range from 2-4 hours in length and include serving meals, preparing food for the homeless, visiting seniors, painting, and throwing Christmas parties. Several of the projects are family-friendly. RSVP to volunteer by December 23.

Our friends at Sixth & I will also be hosting a downtown Shabbat on Christmas night. Rather than the Christmas caroling, you can participate in a Carlebach-inspired service led by Chazzan Larry Paul and musician Robyn Helzner followed by dinner and Shabbat singing. Doors and a cocktail hour will begin at 6, images-5services will start at 6:45, and dinner will be served at 8.

And for anyone who hasn’t seen Star Wars: The Force Awakens – how about we do an unofficial GTJ meet-up and head to the 6:40 show in 3D at the Regal at Gallery Place? Buy your own tickets, head to get Chinese food before/after, and meet me there

 

 

 

Eva is the Jewish Do-Gooder of the Week!

EvaDavisJackie: Where is your favorite place to spend time in DC? 

Eva: I’m a real estate agent so touring awesome homes in DC!!

Jackie: You certainly have the travel bug, where is your favorite place you have visited?

Eva: Israel by far and then next is a tie between the Galapagos Islands and Tanzania!

Jackie: Your one of the founders of the Falafel frenzy, how did this whole thing start?

Eva: We wanted to create an alternative party on Xmas Eve where we could have fun with friends of friends and raise money for causes we all cared about. We’ve raised over $80,000 in last 5 years and given to charities supporting breast cancer research, poverty and hunger in DC and the Jewish community food programs.

Falafel Frenzy Invite_GTJ Newsletter_2015Jackie: What can we look forward to at the event this year?  

Eva: Lots of people partying for q good cause!! We’ll have fun music with our DJ all night!

Who is your favorite Jew?

Eva: Personally my grandmother who embodies so many of the tenants of Judaism and has dedicated her life to Tikun Olam, Israel and her family!

Eva: What is your favorite Jewish food?

Eva: My mom’s brisket and my grandma’s kugel!

Finish the sentence: When the Jews gather…

exciting things happen!!

Abigail is the Jewish Coordinator of the Week!

1743751_10206542289858983_7950879028272322121_nJackie: What brought you to DC?
Like many other recent college graduates, I moved to DC in the hopes of finding a job. Prior to moving out to DC, I spent several summers interning here, and felt that the best hope of employment was located in the nation’s capital.

Jackie: Can you tell us about your work with Republican Jewish Coalition?
I am the Grassroots Coordinator in our National office. Most of my time is spent accelerating the growth of our national membership around the country as well as programming for outreach events. Another aspect of my job is connecting college students and young professionals with our organization. As a perk, I get to meet several leading politicians and influential Jews.

Jackie: Where is your favorite place to hang out in the city?
If it’s not Sunday during football season and I’m not watching my Green Bay Packers, then I love going to this little speakeasy called Harold Black in eastern market. Great ambiance, great conversation, and great whiskey!

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Jackie: Who is your favorite Jew?
Hands down, Andy Samberg. He is hilarious and adorable! If you have not seen his new show Brooklyn 99 you are seriously missing out!

Jackie: How do you like to spend Shabbat?
I spend my Shabbat’s differently every week. Sometimes it is spent in services, sometimes it is spent at a Shabbat dinner with friends and family. However, a lot of the time, it is spent with me attempting to be an adult and cook for myself, failing, and just enjoy a bottle of manischewitz.

Finish the sentence: When the Jews gather…
Oh what a time will be had!

Want to learn more about the RJC or to get involved? Email Abigail!

Erika E… Signing Off

1207Over the last four and a half years of writing for Gather the Jews, a job which I’ve thoroughly enjoyed, I’ve addressed a lot of topics—some serious, some silly, and some in between. In the 100+ articles from “Erika E.” we’ve talked about when it’s time to take your profile down, what to wear on a first date, who should pay on a first date (a lively discussion ensued!), and how soon to reach out to someone after a date. We’ve also talked about dating during the high holidays, online dating fatigue, and which profile pictures to use… and which not to use. (For a list of all of the articles, have at it!)

Throughout the course of my time writing for GTJ, I’ve also gone through a number of milestones in both my professional and personal life. Professionally, I am proud to say that my business, A Little Nudge, has taken off since Day 1. I have gone from working from a fold-up table in my apartment to renting office space in Chinatown and from a payroll of one (me!) to having two employees who help behind the scenes, one in DC and one in NYC. I have now written almost 600 profiles for clients—amazingly, no two of which are the same—and can feel proud about numerous client weddings, engagements, and the pure confidence some people needed to know that online dating can work for them. I feel very lucky to do something that I love.

In my personal life, since I’ve started the business, a lot has changed. While I’ve never addressed it head-on in my articles, when I started my business, I was in a serious, long-term relationship. When it ended, it was very jarring. The thought of both running a dating business and going on dates myself had never crossed my mind. (You can only imagine what kind of a conversation starter that is on dates!) But, having had the experience of heartbreak, a sudden change in the direction of my life, and the need to pick up the pieces not only made me a better person but also made me so much better at my job. I have an empathy for my clients that I never could have had before. I also have my finger on the pulse of the dating scene first-hand since I’m in it (it’s always funny when I tell people I have to download all the dating apps and DVR Millionaire Matchmaker for “work purposes”). While I never wish a difficult breakup on anyone, I can only hope that everyone comes out better on the other side. Oh yeah, and I got the cutest dog in the whole world, Scruffy.

If I were to sum up all of the dating advice I could ever give, then here’s what I would say, in no particular order:

  • Be yourself. Don’t let anyone compromise the essence of who you are.
  • Along those lines, let your quirks shine.
  • Ask questions. No one likes someone who talks too much, especially on a first date.
  • Be gracious. Even if you don’t like someone, what goes around comes around.
  • No “ghosting.” Honesty (within reason) is the best policy. Better to be tactful and honest than cowardly.
  • Stop asking people, “Why are you single?” It implies something is wrong with them. Single by choice is a valid choice.
  • Don’t be generic in your profile. People would rather read that you like to eat chicken pad Thai and drink single-malt Scotch than you like to “stay in with dinner and a movie.”
  • All dating sites are as effective as you make them. Put in the work, and you’ll be more successful.
  • Limit your dating deal-breakers. Try to decide if it’s really that important.
  • Confidence is sexy.
  • Every bad date is a good story.
  • Don’t talk about sex or your ex in your dating profile.
  • Keep a positive outlook and attitude. People can smell negativity… and it stinks.
  • Send unique messages to people, not a copy/paste job of “I liked your profile.”
  • Everyone loves to blame their own city for lack of dating success. It’s time to look inward… or move.

As sad as this is to say, my time writing for GTJ is coming to a close with this article.  I have LOVED writing over the years (especially when people comment on my articles at the happy hours!), but now that the business has grown quite a bit, I need to move in other directions. To continue to follow the business, please feel free to join my mailing list. And please share in the comments section which articles you particularly enjoyed over the years.

I’m sure I’ll see you around town, but for now, happy holidays, and best of luck!

The Power of Young Women

If you look on their website, Jewish Women International defines their Young Women’s Leadership Network (Sponsored by The Sondra D. Bender Community Leadership Institute) as a group that bring together Jewish professional women in their 20s and 30s to grow as leaders in their workplaces, their communities and their personal lives.  The group is meant to build community for Jewish women at a time when it is often hard to find your place in society. The years immediately following college and beyond are by no means easy. There is pressure from all around to be successful, find a partner, get promoted, workout, learn how to cook, have kids, you get the idea. This is where the Young Women’s Leadership Network (YWLN) comes in.

I’m fairly new to DC, having only been here six months, so I was thrilled to come across a group to which I immediately felt connected. JWI does great work across the US working on domestic violence prevention, building healthy relationships, and teaching women the skills they need to be financially literate. Joining YWLN allowed me, a young professional living in DC, to be a part of their great work as well as grow myself as a leader.

This was my first time attending their third annual Young Women’s Leadership conference. Being familiar with JWI’s great work, I knew I could expect a good conference. What I didn’t know though was just how incredible and truly inspirational of an experience it would be. Rachel Horowitz, Talent Associate at Hillel International says, “I loved hearing all of the speakers. It was a really inspiring to hear from successful women and how they overcame various challenges in their lives.” The conference filled the room with inspirational and talented women both behind podiums and in the audience.

IMG_5936It was a truly refreshing experience to see that everyone in attendance was there with the genuine hopes of learning, growing, and building community. I am of the belief that if I learn one thing that I can apply to my life then the conference was a good use of my time. This conference however left me with so much more. Some of my favorite pieces of wisdom include:

“Women do not get what they deserve, they get what they negotiate”

“You don’t have to have all your ducks lined up to take one step forward.”

In the past six months the Young Women’s Leadership Network has truly become a part of my growing community and I am thankful for all they have done for me. For any woman that is new to the DC area or just looking to get involved I would highly recommend checking out the network!

Get involved with YWLN in D.C. or New York by liking the Facebook page (https://www.facebook.com/youngwomensleadershipnetwork) and attending an upcoming event (http://jwi.org/ywln)! Email saltschuler@jwi.org with questions, comments and ideas.