Let’s say you meet someone online, on JDate for example, and things are going well. So well, in fact, that you decide to become exclusive. So well that you decide to move in together. So well that you decide to get married. When the Express or New York Times covers your wedding announcement, and they ask where you met, do you bite the bullet and be honest? Announcing to the world, “We met on JDate,” is an exciting yet scary thing.
About six years ago, before JDate became mainstream and there were still stigmas abounding, I was invited to a wedding. I knew the couple had met on JDate. We all knew the couple had met on JDate. The bride wasn’t shy about it, but the groom was. When I was at the ceremony, and the rabbi said, “They met on a blind date,” we all snickered in our seats. A blind date? Ha! They met online, and that’s all there was to it. (I’ll never know if they lied to the rabbi or simply asked him to use “blind date.”)
Fast forward to about three years ago, when online dating seemed to pick up steam. A couple I knew had their pending nuptials listed in the B.I.O. section of the Express. (Reading those on Mondays tends to be the most exciting part of my day.) Again, I knew they had met on JDate. “Where did you meet?” asked the Express. The response? “Café Citron.” Yes, that’s where they physically met, if you want to be literal, but c’mon – we all know what the question was asking.
In this day and age, things are changing. Now, at least once a month, and oftentimes more frequently, one of the couples in the Express lists one of the online dating sites as the place they met. In fact, just a few weeks ago, two out of three couples that were featured met online. And I’m proud to say that I met my boyfriend online (which isn’t bad for business, of course). But, in my opinion, it doesn’t matter where you meet your significant other, as long as he or she makes you happy.
I wonder if the couples I mentioned before would have been more honest today. This leaves us the question: What would you do?
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Erika Ettin is the Founder of A Little Nudge, where she offers services from online dating profile-writing to e-mailing potential matches to planning dates. An archive of all of Erika’s columns is also available. Want to connect with Erika? Join her newsletter for updates and tips.